Joe

Mainstay helped him learn to take control his anger, listen and discuss issues.

This story involves a young man who said that he and his wife always had to have the last word in an argument. Each one trying to win.

Joe said to the group that he loved his wife and he wanted to keep the relationship so he began to listen to the topics in class and realized that you can blame the police, the courts, your spouse but really the only reason he got arrested was because we all did something that we should not have done.

He began taking time outs to control his anger and then going back and discussing the issue with his wife later. As he started to listen more to his wife’s point of view she started listening to him. He said he is fortunate because as he grows and changes she is too because they both want to make the relationship work.

They can now discuss difficult subjects without toasters or canned vegetables flying at his head or his losing control. His evaluation of the relationship is that it is almost like when they first met as kids in school.