Things to Do if you are Going Back to the Relationship

If your abuser claims to want to help, know the options and understand you can not change anyone else.
Continue crisis/support group if you can.
Remember that you are NOT responsible for the violence.
Make a safety plan.
Know where important papers (birth certificates, shot records, social security cards, marriage license, etc.) are, and get copies if possible.
Do not isolate yourself. Make daily contact with someone else.
Pay attention to changes in your partner's moods, and trust what you feel
Make up your mind ahead of time how much you will put up with and stick to that.
When you think things are building up, make plans to get the children and yourself to a safe place.
Think about option counseling if you can.
Research shows violent behavior does not change without outside help.
The shelter was a safe place for you when you needed it. Remember that we are here.
Stash away some money.
Know medical insurance information.
Know your abuser's social security number.
Know phone numbers (or write them somewhere) you might need for emergencies.
Make arrangements to leave before you get hurt.
Have an extra set of car keys made and hide them somewhere for use in an emergency.
Get a valid North Carolina ID card and carry it with you
Stash away a small pack of emergency clothes.

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